Tuesday, May 28, 2013

May meeting - be strong and brave God's way!

Yesterday we had a fun time talking with Babies, Big Sis's and moms about what makes us strong.  Most had seen the movie Brave, and these are the ideas that we shared:

Being strong doesn't mean being rebellious or disrespectful
Being strong doesn't mean acting like a boy and hating feminine things
Being strong doesn't mean that what you feel like doing is the right thing
Being strong doesn't come from physical strength or being pushy

Strength comes from being wise
Strength comes from respecting the authorities God put over you
Strength comes from finding God's ways to deal with things that seem unfair
Strength comes from having the courage to do what you don't feel like, just because it's right
Strength comes from resisting the urge to be selfish
Strength comes from letting God work things out in His time, His way
Strength comes from accepting who you are as a girl/young woman and growing in that grace

Enjoy some of the pics of our meeting in Houston at the Succeed in Life Center!

Friday, May 17, 2013

Upcoming monthly meeting: Just who is Merida?

The movie, Brave was a big hit here in the US and I'm sure around the world.  The heroine is the young princess, Merida, who doesn't like fancy clothes and would rather sword-fight than be ladylike.  She isn't interested in impressing boys, has a strong personality and has won the hearts of hundreds of thousands of little girls everywhere.  She's Disney's newest version of what our girls are supposed to aspire to be.

Admittedly, there's a lot of negative stuff, but there is quite a good deal of positive lessons as well.  Our Pre Sisterhood girls are being exposed to everything under the sun in school and through TV and movies, that unless we are up to date with what they are learning, we won't be able to guide and give them the right direction.  I have given a "mini-task" to our Baby Sis's and their moms to watch this movie on DVD before our monthly meeting (of course the Big Sis's will have to do this too!) and talk about the lessons taught in this movie, and the pros and cons of these ideas based on what God tells us He wants us to be.

  • Does God want girls and women to be fighters?  YES!! But how and for what purposes?  
  • Does God want girls to be obsessing about boys and trying to get their attention?  Sorry, but if you don't know the answer to this question, you may need some counseling...!
  • Does God care whether we dress in a feminine way, or does He care more about our inner strength?  
  • Should girls have strong opinions, and get tough sometimes?
  • Isn't femininity about softness and sensitivity?

Some of the above are trick questions, and some of them have the answer of both yes and no.  But how and when these aspects can and should be used by us as women and as young girls, has to come in line with the Word of God.  THAT'S what we'll be talking about and having fun with in our upcoming Pre-Sisterhood meeting in Texas on the 26th.

We'll be posting more very soon!!

Tuesday, May 7, 2013

When Mom is Well, All is Well

The Pre-Sisterhood is just as much about moms learning how to guide their daughters as it is the girls themselves.  Send these links to all moms you know, as we'll be posting up plenty of tips on how to be the best one for your little sweetie pies!

What happens when kids are surrounded by others who don't really care that they exist?  They get really really active.  They laugh louder than necessary, they talk louder, they put on a really annoying act that they are so incredibly happy no matter what happens.  They are, in fact, trying to make themselves believe that they are happy.  Quiet and calm are irritants to these children because they are forced remember they feel rejected and unloved, and then all sorts of behavior problems can arise.  Destructive behavior, anger, aggression, depression, even young children can seek out addictions to hide the pain.

Every heard of that little problem called bi-polar?  This sense of rejection is often the spark that starts a chain reaction that eventually gets kids diagnosed and prescribed mind-numbing drugs by psychiatrists. They are told they have a "chemical imbalance" that can only be treated with psychotic drugs. What they most often have, is parental malfunction.

A few weeks ago I visited an orphanage not too far from Houston with some of the Sisterhood girls to have some fun and games with the children there.  The littlest ones just soaked up all the love and attention with eagerness.  But the 9 and up crowd were exactly as I had described.  First cold and suspicious, and then changed to become excessively loud, active, laughing, jumping, talking, shouting, as if they wanted to believe they were so very happy.  These kids were trying so hard to prove a point, their desperate attempt to appear happy was heartbreaking to witness.  They weren't really trying to prove anything to us - they were trying to prove it to themselves.

No one gives birth to an automatically happy child.  You can't say, "Wow, this one just worked out better than the other one.  I guess he's a keeper!"  Children don't just "work out."  Each has his or her own uniqueness in personality and talents, but their sense of well-being and security has to be formed by their parents.  An unhappy, fearful mother creates instability at home.

A parent that sends signals through their behavior that they resent the presence of their child creates instability, no matter how much time or monty they spend on them, no matter how often they drag them to church.  Kids are experts at finding hypocrisy in us.  If we say we love them and then roll our eyes at the fact that they actually behave like children, their antennae are up to figure out why they are so unwanted, and their hyper-switch is activated.  If mom is tired of me, maybe she'll notice me more if I'm really really loud!  What if I just say, "Hey Mom? Ya know what mom?  Mom? Hey Mom, ya know what?"  over and over every few minutes? That should make her love me more!  Still doesn't work?  Maybe if I kick my sister in the shins and smash her doll against the chair Mom will see how much I need her...

We all know how well that works.

Mothers who find help for themselves first, stand the biggest chance of ever helping their children.  Just the atmosphere at home becomes brighter when Mom is at peace, and without having to say much at all, everyone feels a whole lot happier - including Dad.  And why am I picking at poor Mom as if it's all her problem?  I'm   not.  I just know that among all the couples and families I've counseled, if Mom is truly well - all is well, and the rest can be sorted out.

Welcome one and all!!

Mom's, daughters, Dads, brothers, you all are more than welcome to enjoy the contents of this blog, as we teach our Pre-Sisterhood girls all about growing to become what God created them to be.  They're already beautiful and smart, but it's our job to make sure they are refined by God's ways and principles.

Here are the photos from April's Pre-Sisterhood meeting with the moms and girls at SiLC in Houston.  Big Sis's, send your photos so we can start a fun gallery of all that your girls are doing!